How do you deal with the loss of a loved one?

Today I attended a funeral of someone I loved so dearly and the pain was so deep especially knowing that I will not see them anymore. Looking at this situation made me wonder, that if as an adult I feel so lost and hurt, what about young children?

The question I think most of us ask ourselves , do these children understand the meaning of death? I ask myself how does a loving God allow these children to go through this painful experience? and how does the family explain the situation to the little ones? I ask these question because even Jesus Christ himself could not bear the pain of watching the sisters crying for their brother.And said, Where have ye laid him? They said unto him, Lord, come and see. Jesus wept. Then said the Jews, Behold how he loved him!John 11:34‭-‬36

Looking at death, makes me understand why people get angry with God for taking their loved ones which is a sad experience.What also complicates things are the people who come to comfort the family when they keep on saying its God’s will. When you are going through the loss of a loved one and people keep on pointing to God as the source of your pain. I wonder whether we have thought about our actions as we visit these families because I realised that as comforters we want to tell people how they should feel instead of listening to them explaining how they feeling. Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath: James 1:19 KJV. We need to listen more than talking because we might be worsening the situation,God created two ears and one mouth for a reason.

Job 1:21 And said, Naked came I out of my mother’s womb,and naked shall I return thither: the Lord gave, and the Lord hath taken away; blessed be the name of the Lord. I wish someone can explain this verse to me in the correct context because I am grieving and in pain and you tell me God gave and God had taken. How do we expect people to feel or maybe because we don’t have answers then it must be God who caused the situation since he cannot answer for himself. Truly I don’t know the answers to my questions but I know readers will help me to find answers.

Lots of Love see you in the next episode

2 thoughts on “How do you deal with the loss of a loved one?

  1. From ash we were made, to ash we will return.. I believe these verses were said to comfort us in a manner that we should not think that God does not love us. Death is the only way to meet our heavenly father.. It is not only us and it won’t be us only who’ll get to bury our loved ones, we are not the first and last hence it is a path that we will all go through.. But we can’t get used to “death”, it always comes as a shock and leaves wounds.. But be comforted, because at least the person gets to rest. We might not have the same belief but, I always told myself I’ve gained an angel.

    This again, as much as u don’t find comfort in these words, it still remains to be God’s will.. He knows how much time we have, he lent us this time, from ash we were made and to ash we’ll return. So the time we still have, it is yet another time lent to us to repent, prepare for our way to heaven.

    My condolences, it is not an easy thing I know especially if it is someone u love and during this Covid19 when you can’t pay your last respect normally the way we are used to. May God give you strength to accept the loss and understand why.


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